Some background history : During my first year in university,I broke up with my high-school not-so-sweetheart because I could not stand his mother,who was trash-talking me both behind my back and in my face.After that,I screwed a guy for a week just to boost my ego,and after we dumped each other,I met a group of girls who asked me to be part of their group.I know I have some trust issues,but gossip is not fun without a group to share,right?So,we bonded over gossip about guys-at least those of us who did have a sexual active relationship.Soon though,one of the girls,the leader if you may,wanted to cast me out because I like to look at good looking guys (more like ogle and drool LOL…) and she thought that this was slutty (really?she approached me to ask about the one-week-guy’s sexual performance and just looking at guys is slutty?)…Anyway,the group split in two groups after that the “Annie’s friends” and the “We really hate Annie” (I am Annie).A few months down the road,I started seeing(screwing) a guy just because…Yes,I was bored,and since all the girls except one in my group always talked about how much they hate guys,soon the group split once more,and two of my four friends joined the girls on the “we hate Annie” group (meaning they dumped us for the other group)…It all sounds middle school,especially the part that they started rumours about me having cooties and stealing their headbands)…I was left with two friends and a metrosexual F**K buddy.I thought that they were my besties (Em and Nikki).Em would “tease” me by calling me a slut for having so many boyfriends(or F**k buddies) while she is still a virgin,and pretend to flirt with metrosexual-F**K buddy.I laughed about it then because I did not care at all,I was not in love with any of the (two) guys I screwed during my first year.At the beginning of the second year though,one night we were hanging out with Em,Nikki and a guy friend of ours in a park and a guy(friend of our friend) stopped by to say hi.I was instantly attracted to him,and I did not hesitate to tell him so right away.When we parted ways,Nikki said that she is happy I am getting over my lack of self esteem and try to express my feelings.Em said that I am a slut because I hit on every guy she is in love with (we all met him for the first time that night,except for our guy friend who knew him from school,how can she be so deeply in love with him)..Three weeks later we started dating (our mutual friend told me that during the time we were away he would not stop calling him and asking about me).We did not have sex during the first few months,because I was still working on my self esteem and trust issues and he was trying to get over his depression.Em would invite herself on our dates,hit on him or even call me a slut,more aggressively now,until during christmass break she was pushing him to take her out on a date after they met at some mall he was shopping for gifts.He politely declined and told me right away of the incident.
I called her to ask for an explanation and she started calling me a whore and a few other choice words,while her mother chimed in to add some more insults about me.So,that was the end of this friendship.I kept the boyfriend though,because we were good together.I liked his honesty,I liked that I was able to walk around naked in his appartment without hearing nasty comments about my scars,I liked that he would respect our relationship (he actually asked ME to wait until HE was ready,so sweet of him),I liked that we took our time getting to know each other better and getting comfortable with each other even completely naked,without thinking about sex only (OK,That’s oversharing.LOL).
Moving forward,we are still together,even though he moved three hours away because he scored an internship near his parent’s home and he is currently staying with them.I am happy for him,and I visit him as often as my financial status can support,his parents are great and already accept me as a part of their family,he talks about marriage and kids sometimes(I told him though I need to finish university and get a job before taking our relationship to the next level).
And here comes the real issue:
Ever since classes started this year,Em was bummed to see we are still together (she facebook-stalk us through mutual acquintances even though we both deleted and blocked her) and that I am happy with him even in a LDR,so she started by trash-talking me during class.Example : Professor X asks a question on the subject he teaches,I offer to answer,he congratulates me and announces that whatever my grade is,it will be raised due to my good answer,Em says loudly “Did you have sex with him too?” in which I can’t help but respond sarcastically “No,he is not my type,but since you fail at most of the classes you might need the extra credit.” (NOTE: I am usually ignoring comments like that,but actually a lot of the proffessors here,after seeing me turning red and wait until the class is dismissed to cry,told me that when I am being harassed/bullied,I have to fight back in any possible way,and they will look the other way while I do so.).
Next,she would send messages to my boyfriend telling him that I am definitely cheating on him,otherwise why would I do my make up and hair every day and wear my best outfits at class?He told me about those messages while laughing hysterically,because we both know he was the one to encourage me take better care of my self (appearance included).
Today,she send him screencaps from long ago where I commended on a few models’ (both female and male) pictures that they look gorgeous (When someone is beautiful,is it forbidded to ackowledge it?),and one of them,who is from near my home town,jokingly replied that I have a gorgeous eye (because my profile pic is a close-up photo of my left eye).Of course she photoshopped the dates,because my comments were from a couple years ago and she made it look like it was from last month (damn it,why did I teach her to photoshop),accompanied by a message that the male model who replied to my comment is screwing me whenever I visit my hometown,and that she saw us together many times on campus this month.
My boyfriend did not believe her of course because he knows that I like looking at models,I even share with him pictures of female models (I do not approve pornographic images,but an artistic lingerie or even nude can be enjoyed by all viewers,both male and female)..
I wonder what’s next,plant used condoms in my purse?Ughh..I feel really annoyed with her behavior.Do I have to turn mean girl and throw her nasty comments to her ugly face?
